Reframing Childcare Guilt and Embracing Support

Recently, I saw a post on Instagram about a mom’s guilt around sending her daughter to daycare. I commented:

"When I was in 8th grade, my teacher said people asked if she was afraid to send her daughter to daycare – afraid her child might bond with somebody else more. Her response was, 'No, the more people who love and are loved by my daughter, the better.' I was young, but so struck by this amazing and secure attitude. Those words have stuck with me."

This comment garnered a lot of attention, with many moms chiming in to say that loving daycare providers have become part of their extended family—only enriching their children’s experiences of giving and receiving love.

How many mamas out there need to be reminded that childcare doesn’t diminish the bond between you and your child?

We live in a world where mothers often carry the weight of guilt when considering childcare, whether it’s daycare, a nanny, or any other form of support. Many worry that time apart will weaken the bond or make them “less of a mom.” But the truth is, it’s quality over quantity when it comes to nurturing a strong, healthy relationship with your child.

The love, care, and attention our children receive from others can only enrich their lives. When they’re surrounded by people who care about them—whether family, friends, or professional caregivers—it fosters emotional growth and resilience. Truly, the more people who love and care for them, the better.

The bond between mother and child is not fragile. It is built on trust, respect, and consistent love. You get to choose how you show up for your child in the moments you do spend together. Even if fewer than you’d like, those moments can still be incredibly meaningful, creating lasting memories and emotional security.

Give yourself permission to let go of guilt and embrace childcare—whether it’s so you can work outside the home or simply take time for yourself. Allow yourself to recharge, be your best self, and bring more joy and presence into the moments you share with your child.

If you’re a mother reading this, know that the love you give will always be enough. Don’t let guilt cloud your ability to care for yourself or seek the support you need. The mother-child bond cannot be broken by time apart. What truly matters is the love and connection you nurture when you’re together.

If you need help letting go of mom guilt, finding balance, or embracing more self-care, check out my Empowered Motherhood Course.